Very well? Did you get everything under control yesterday on Thanksgiving? Pies all cooked? Was your turkey prepared properly? Everyone arrive on time? Did you bear in mind the cranberry sauce and the rolls? Now, you start hitting the department stores or your computer for shopping; decorating the lawn and house; putting up the tree; baking the holiday cookies; sending away cards for Christmas or Hanukkah or Kwanzaa; and on and on, still… Lack of sleep ., grief or solitude, limited health, shopping – huge stress sources, right? Will you be in your mind and physically exhausted yet? How about overstimulated? ACK!
Family and cultural customs, along with expectations (real or imagined), can have a tendency to burst your stress levels to a frenzied pitch. Depressive disorder, Seasonal Affective Disorder and also the thought of spending way too much time with that rude Uncle Sally could just make you want to junk it all and take a hot bath, true? Prevent and take a profound breath! You already know me: Now i am not one to contemplate on the negative, so let’s find the desire in this scenario, OKAY? You’re not alone!
How CARRY OUT we deal using this? You’d think we’d all be experts at controlling the holidays because we get it done year after 12 months after year. History will repeat itself until we learn the lesson, right? Guess we’re still learning! So, here are some tips to keep in mind and practice so that maybe, just maybe, as we are launched into the beginning of some wildly hectic several weeks, we can set some boundaries, be realistic, impress some really good habits and get through it – with smiles on our deals with and love in our hearts!
– Maintain a healthy routine and keep practicing your good behaviors: keep walking; keep heading to a health club; get a great deal of sleep; be aware of what all this is approximately; watch the alcoholic beverages and food intake (less pounds gained = much easier to get rid of computer in the New Year! ). Get outside! That always helps me put everything in perspective!
– Become realistic! Nothing is perfect (ever! ), so expect the unexpected and try to ‘go with the flow. ‘ There should be no ‘shoulds! ‘ Be flexible, but do set boundaries and be ready to ‘just say no’ (delay your response so you can think about the full ramifications – politely! ). You will get yourself ill if you make an effort to please everyone, all the time!
– Practice an Attitude of Gratitude: may dwell on the negative, especially things you cannot change (Maybe turn off the news for the month? Someone will inform you if anything important happens! ). Pay attention to enjoying your family and friends and keeping track of your blessings.
– Approach ahead and get prepared! (Gee – where’d that come from?! ) Generate sure that your to-do lists are reasonable, with goals you can actually reach (so you can cross them off! ). Keep some white space on the calendar because challenges and the unpredicted may happen. Allow some time for R&R, too: a good nap can put everything into proper point of view. Set a low cost and keep to it – purchasing one season of the entire year during the whole next season is merely ___ – you fill out the blank! You, your friends and relationships can find a great deal to do that’s even free!
– Practice self-care! This goes with the nap-thing above! Focus on the NOW and be mindful of each and every moment: inhale and exhale; do things only for YOU; always fit in some points that you enjoy! If too much mingling is getting you down, keep your gatherings limited to certain days, certain times and perhaps those limitations will help you cope that much better.
– Be sure you’re hooking up, sharing and caring with others, particularly if you are alone, lonely, grieving. Not any family locally? Find a local church or soups kitchen you can help in while helping others. Such tiny Acts of Kindness will just warm your heart and alleviate the pain that being forced to make ‘new’ traditions might garner. Try to find the proper niche for you at Volunteer Meet, for instance.
– Find out if/when you might want to seek help from a medical professional. Symptoms sustained for weeks on end and your SAD lamp fixture not really helping? Feel base!
OK, enough of the reminders of what you are aware, right? Now, get to all of that baking, shopping and decorating – but now with some storage that all this is supposed to be fun; be a reminder demonstrating how blessed we all are; and revel in these next weeks with joy and peace in your heart and heart!